![]() Families have their own cultures and ways of communicating, which makes it difficult for me to give advice or specific tips. Your parents are unique, you are unique, and your patterns of relating to each other are unique. Since all families are different there is no “one size fits all” answer when you’re looking for ways to deal with controlling parents. I wrote a bit about that workshop in How to Love Yourself When You Don’t Feel Good Enough. My husband and I recently attended a family dynamics workshop (it’s the fifth of seven sessions) it was all about coping with your childhood relationships. 7 Tips for Dealing With Controlling Parents Giving up your expectations may be the healthiest thing you ever do in life. Giving up hope may sound negative and depressing - but after you read my explanation and tips for coping with parents who try to control you, you may feel differently. “If, of course, you accept and don’t pout.” “Giving up hope is one of the healthiest, most life-affirming things you could do for yourself,” writes Dr Laura Schlessinger in Bad Childhood – Good Life: How to Blossom and Thrive in Spite of an Unhappy Childhood. And that’s good news! It means you have more power and control over your life than you realize. ![]() You can, however, change how you respond to them. They are who they are, and you can’t change them. Whether you’re a teenager or an adult child living at home, the most important thing to remember is that you can’t change your parents. I can almost guarantee that if you share one tip on how you’re learning to deal with parents who try to control you, you will feel better about your family situation! Just focusing on what works for you is enough to brighten your spirits just a little. Please feel free to share your experiences and thoughts on dealing with parents below. I can’t give personal or specific advice on how to deal with controlling parents, but I’m happy to share a few ideas. If you have tips or advice for dealing with parents who try to control adult children, I’d love to hear them.” I’m trying to learn how to deal with controlling parents but it is destroying the family love. My parents are the most negative people I’ve ever known, and they dreain me of my spirit and energy. Someone else’s son is always better than me. Always have to give me orders on what to do around the house, even when I’m right about to do a chore, they just have to tell me to do exactly what I’m about to do so it seems like ‘they won.’ My parents are controlling and childish at the maximum level. I’m now 36, they visit me once a year and yet they still do the same crap. Madly praising others’ kids in front of me. ![]() “Criticism after criticism, controlling me in different ways. ![]() “Growing up, my parents always had a way of making me feel crappy about myself,” he said on How to Cope With Difficult Parents. I was inspired to write this article for Andy. Knowing how to deal with pushy parents requires a balance between acceptance and assertive behavior. They think they know what’s best for you and they aren’t shy about sharing their opinion! These tips for adult children, children living at home, or adult children will help you help you see your situation – and your mom and dad – differently. No matter how old you are, controlling parents never stop trying to run your life.
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